It's been almost five months since we got married, since Clem and I became husband and wife.
I haven't been overly effusive over what we share between us, here on this blog. Nor have I been expressive about our relationship on any other platform, on or off-line.
I have come to the conclusion that even though I believe that I'm an expressive person, I'm actually not, at all.
Once upon a time, I was. I was meticulous about writing down everything I saw, thought, felt, experienced. Anything that moved me, I wrote about in my diary. I can't pin-point the exact point in time when I stopped, when my modes of self-expression dried up and left me with a tide of emotions threatening to burst through the floodgates at any time. But I learnt tough lessons on keeping my tongue and my pen in check, and not always writing down every single thing that came to mind.
So, here I am now.
Blogging about the inane more often than not, even though what I really want to say is more hmmmmm than la-dee-da.
Friends and family alike have been asking me what marriage life has been like.
While on one hand, it feels "same-same, but different", it also feels like I'm a totally different person. Where once I was merely my parent's spoilt daughter, my sister's spendthrift older sister, my friend's friend - now, I am Clement's wife, and a (seemingly irresponsible) daughter-in-law with mixed up priorities. You may think "but they're just labels - they don't mean much by themselves"...
Au contraire!
Marriage is hard work. I'm not going to sugar coat it and pretend that marriage is about just "me and my darling husband". Far from it.
It's now "me and my darling husband AND our careers AND our respective parents AND our dreams and ambitions AND our friends". I would be trivializing everything marriage is about if I were to claim that all these other people and things don't matter as much after getting married. As much as we become one body from two when we marry in the eyes of God and the Church, we have our pre-existing responsiblities and hopes and dreams as individuals, and they are not easily chucked aside at the slipping on of a ring.
That being said, there's much to savour about being married as well.
I love coming back to mon bien-aimé every evening after work, curling up in bed together after a long day to wind down, waking up each morning to his face and voice, and the whole general idea of facing the world and everything that it throws at us together, hand-in-hand... And most recently, the prospect of seeing the wide world with him by my side.
Without further a-do, here are some pictures of the day that marked the start of forever together, the start of the rest of my life.
Photography credits to AbsolutResolution.
Getting ready in the morning in my new kimono-print dress robe!
Love the prints :)
Close-up of my full lace gown, which I'm very proud of still cos I think it's gorgeous!
Guest-book and reception table decor done by my very talented pal, Chelsa.
Baby sis, you look radiant!
My bouquet was rather wild, as you can see from that stubborn stalk of calla lily. But I loved the mix of colours and flowers :)
First picture with both sets of parents.
The wedding party, decked out in my decreed colour scheme of dusty peach pink, pistachio green, and cream.
Starting our new life against the backdrop of our beloved parish.
So, highlights from the church wedding in the morning!
I may or may not do another one for the dinner at night, depending on my mood.
But next up, I'll be working on a honeymoon holiday post, so stay tuned for that.
Happy Monday!
So, here I am now.
Blogging about the inane more often than not, even though what I really want to say is more hmmmmm than la-dee-da.
Friends and family alike have been asking me what marriage life has been like.
While on one hand, it feels "same-same, but different", it also feels like I'm a totally different person. Where once I was merely my parent's spoilt daughter, my sister's spendthrift older sister, my friend's friend - now, I am Clement's wife, and a (seemingly irresponsible) daughter-in-law with mixed up priorities. You may think "but they're just labels - they don't mean much by themselves"...
Au contraire!
Marriage is hard work. I'm not going to sugar coat it and pretend that marriage is about just "me and my darling husband". Far from it.
It's now "me and my darling husband AND our careers AND our respective parents AND our dreams and ambitions AND our friends". I would be trivializing everything marriage is about if I were to claim that all these other people and things don't matter as much after getting married. As much as we become one body from two when we marry in the eyes of God and the Church, we have our pre-existing responsiblities and hopes and dreams as individuals, and they are not easily chucked aside at the slipping on of a ring.
That being said, there's much to savour about being married as well.
I love coming back to mon bien-aimé every evening after work, curling up in bed together after a long day to wind down, waking up each morning to his face and voice, and the whole general idea of facing the world and everything that it throws at us together, hand-in-hand... And most recently, the prospect of seeing the wide world with him by my side.
Without further a-do, here are some pictures of the day that marked the start of forever together, the start of the rest of my life.
Photography credits to AbsolutResolution.
Getting ready in the morning in my new kimono-print dress robe!
Love the prints :)
Close-up of my full lace gown, which I'm very proud of still cos I think it's gorgeous!
Guest-book and reception table decor done by my very talented pal, Chelsa.
Baby sis, you look radiant!
My bouquet was rather wild, as you can see from that stubborn stalk of calla lily. But I loved the mix of colours and flowers :)
First picture with both sets of parents.
The wedding party, decked out in my decreed colour scheme of dusty peach pink, pistachio green, and cream.
Starting our new life against the backdrop of our beloved parish.
So, highlights from the church wedding in the morning!
I may or may not do another one for the dinner at night, depending on my mood.
But next up, I'll be working on a honeymoon holiday post, so stay tuned for that.
Happy Monday!
